Friday, February 2, 2024
Joy in the Ordinary - block 2...
Sunday, October 22, 2023
Counting the cost...
Dear friends, Thank you for the prayers many of you have offered on our family's behalf, prayers for employment for both my husband and our son in law Ross. I want to assure you that Blossom and I have complete trust in the Lord to provide what is needed at the right time. My husband knows this too, but being the head of the home and our main provider, there's more pressure on him (in his own mind) to gain work soon. Ross is not a Christian so he's feeling more pressure with each week that passes...so we keep praying, and as my beloved Nana would say all the time, "God willing it (whatever the need or plan was) will come to pass."
Homemaking in my experience, is like the seasons, a rhythmic change of circumstances. We have the season of noisy growing children filling the rooms, and then the season of quiet when they have left the nest. There are the seasons of plenty, times when we have comfortably enough, and the times when every penny counts. A season of excellent health may be followed by a serious illness, and vice versa. Our home garden might be abundant one year, and swallowed up by flood or drought the next, and of course there may be a season of being ably employed, followed by a season of no work at all.
As a homemaker first and foremost, I find myself challenged in various ways when a certain season arrives or leaves. For example, I knew in advance that my husband would be unemployed by early October, so I did what I immediately thought should be done, and began a new Stitchery Club to at least help us pay the mortgage each week...but I was wrong to do that.
Hubby used to work six days a week, and when he would have holidays I'd consciously pull back a bit with my regular chores so that we could spend more time together, especially in the garden as that's a pastime we really enjoy. But a week or two later he was back at work and after playing catch-up with deep cleaning for a few days, I'd settle back to the normal routines and rhythms of keeping home.
Having him home now for an unknown period of time, and adding a new Stitchery Club to my list of to-dos (working on the club requires hours every day) on top of my regular and important responsibilities around home, he has noticed that I am run off my feet trying to keep up, and this has put a real damper on our days. My beloved is the head of our home, and through God, he is our income provider. When we married the plan was always that I'd raise the children and keep house, and he would be the breadwinner. Admittedly, when the children were younger (as was I) and he was retraining at University, he was happy that I was able to earn a little extra by doing things like Avon, cleaning a large local church (hubby helped) or selling used rare books online which I'd found at op-shops - these all helped fund our homeschooling expenses over the years...but they never replaced his wage, nor became a necessity. If it was getting too much I simply stopped with his blessing and gave my full attention to home and family.
When the children were at the end of their homeschooling education, I had begun to design stitcheries and offered a free block of the month on my blog every year (still do). Soon various craft magazines were asking me to design for them on a monthly basis, and I did that for about five or six years before choosing to offer my patterns through my own site. It's been a wonderful journey doing this, and because of the income we were finally able to save enough for a deposit on a home of our own late in 2018. Buying our home was a long held dream and we give thanks daily to the Lord for making this possible.
As I reflect on the changes having a home of our own made in our lives as we neared 60, we were simply not prepared for the energy it would take to turn a home in the tropics which was surrounded by concrete, into a green, shady, edible garden. On top of that were the internal changes, a flood in 2019, so many home repairs and flood pumps installed as we fought rising water every wet season, and each year getting older and both of us having auto-immune diseases to manage. We do not regret a thing, and we know this home was a gift from God so that we'd not have to rent anymore, but could create our own home sanctuary to last through the latter years of life, and ultimately be passed on one day if the Lord tarries His return.
But jumping in to start a new club, even though my intentions were good, did not make them right for this season of life. One day I was so exhausted and with my body a mass of pain, another migraine beginning to brew, all I wanted was to fall into bed. Later that night when bedtime finally came around I prayed and asked the Lord for help. Do you know what He said?
"You didn't count the cost first." Every time I woke in the night I pondered those words and next morning re-read Jesus' words on that very subject. (Luke 14:28,29) He was describing how a builder would not build a tower without first sitting down and counting the cost, to make sure he had enough supplies before he began. Then I read chapters before and after that one, because I am very much a contextualist when it comes to studying Scripture, and discovered more examples of counting the cost.
Cost can be anything which will be required of you to pursue a certain task, relationship or belief. It's not just about money. The cost I had not factored in was time, energy, age, health and priorities. As the past few months have come and gone, it's clear that not much was lain aside, apart from blogging, because I take my homemaking very seriously, but in order to keep up I had to fill more and more hours each week with precious time which should not have been surrendered so rashly. No wonder I was exhausted and in so much pain. If only I had counted the cost before making that decision.
When I eventually fell on my knees before our Lord, He was so very gracious, and in the past week or so I have become more aware of the cost that must be paid for any decision I will make now and in the future. Counting the cost is marvellous for putting things into perspective, for alerting me to a pot-hole in the road ahead, for reminding me of what I have in my hand and what I can do without.
I even got inspiration for a new design, with words of life to keep me steady and grounded in the simple life I love so much, and which recently began to slip away.
I do not have to design anymore. But I can when I have time, when inspiration from the Lord is present, and when I am enjoying it. The project above was lovely to create, and because it came from my heart, overflowing with gratitude to the Lord (and my husband), I relaxed and did something I'd only attempted once before...cotton crochet edging. It took time, but it wasn't rushed. It simply brought me joy.
So, no more new Stitchery Club, but yes to the occasional new pattern which I'll just pop in my Etsy Shop. I do have a few already, which I made for the club, but now they'll just be single patterns in the shop. Maybe later in the week the patterns will be added there, but right now, hubby and I have a garden to work in, a Bible to study, some bread to bake, and time with each other to enjoy. Oh, and our Molly-dog too. She's become the sweetest addition to our home and puts a smile on our faces all the time.
If you've become overwhelmed this year, perhaps you have taken on too much? Step back a bit and pray for the Father to show you what needs to go.
Perhaps you are facing a decision? Count the cost first, dear one. Count the cost. You might be paying more than it's worth.
Bless you heaps,
Friday, April 1, 2022
Books and Roses BOM - April...
And the cover of the book, minus the dustjacket, still bears the same photo, so I'm doubly chuffed.
HOME RENOVATION: (or, the beginning of a few small updates)
Two weeks ago we decided it was time to finally get rid of the very old interior doors within our home. The previous owners had three dogs which slept in their bedroom and the ugly mid-brown coloured bedroom door has a doggy-flap. It was always on the to-do list but the outside repairs and chores were more important.
Now, however, we have made the first steps towards a bit of interior renovation by buying new doors. We have five interior doors to replace in the house, so at the moment my beloved does a bit of undercoating each night after dinner.
I'm really excited! They will be painted 'natural white' and so will the door frames. This will blend very well with the beige walls and add a lot of light to the house. The old mid-brown coloured doors are drab and tend to rob the rooms and hallways of light...and I love a home with lots of calming white.
So the first door to be installed will be the bedroom, and then he will work his way through the house with the others. No rush, but it's lovely to know it will eventually be done.
Friday, March 11, 2022
Homemaking as the seasons change...
Wednesday, June 16, 2021
The power of finding beauty...
They went back to painting for a while, but soon came inside to make button necklaces and watch Lea read from Little House in the Big Woods (you can see this here, it's wonderful for small children!)
After some colouring, it was time to bake choc chip cookies. The girls watched as I made the cookie dough and then helped me roll the balls and place onto the cookie trays. Rafaella pulled her little stool over to watch them bake, she couldn't wait to eat them!
Later on Cully May and I made a Feta, Tomato and Pasta Bake to take home to mummy and daddy for dinner. She was amazing, doing most of the process herself, apart from the chopping.
As the afternoon was still so hot we walked up to the corner shop for ice-creams, and then it was time to swim in the pool. The water was lovely and cold, so we played around in it for about half an hour. By then it was getting close to dinner time so I bundled the girls up in thick beach towels and we headed inside so they could have a warm bubble bath before going home.
The day reminded me of this quote by Louisa May Alcott - "The power of finding beauty in the humblest things makes home happy and life lovely." Little children have a way of finding delight in the simplest things and if we take the time to look at life through their eyes, it can fill a weary heart with pure and humble joy. That's what this day with my two little princesses did for my own tired and weary heart.
They had walked with me around the entire garden to smell every bloom, touch every plant, all the while exclaiming with such confidence, "Nana, this rose smells so pretty!" or "Nana, can we eat that when it grows bigger?" and "Nana, how long will the strawberries take to grow?"...everything they saw delighted their senses and in turn, they delighted me.
I've almost finished a remake of an old pattern, this time a little larger than my original. On Friday I'll be sharing this as a free download, and probably with a tutorial as it will become a small wall quilt. This was meant to be ready yesterday but after that big day with my girls, yesterday I just needed to slow down and not think too much about work, blogging or sewing. Instead I pottered around, cleaned out and reorganised a few kitchen drawers, did the washing and ironing, and vacuumed the house. None of it was rushed, and I took a few peaceful breaks for tea, reading and baking. There was a punnet of raspberries in the fridge that I'd forgotten about so I made two dozen raspberry, lemon and almond muffins. I kept a dozen for us and put aside the other dozen for Blossom's family.
Some were served today at morning tea when my neighbour dropped by...they truly were delicious! No recipe, I'm sorry, as I make up my muffin recipes as I go along using whatever is on hand. No measurements, just adding the basics and then the extras until I have the right consistency.
My neighbour enjoys the regular baked treats she receives from my kitchen, as much as I enjoy her thoughtful gifts of flowers. Today she gave me these gorgeous green chrysanthemums. Aren't they lovely?!
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I hope your week is travelling along nicely, with no bumps in the road or heavy trials to face. It's my prayer always that whoever reads my blog experiences the tangible love of God each day, and that His strong arms will hold you up when you cannot stand yourself, that His still small voice leads you in the path you should follow, and His gift of salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ becomes more and more profound in your thoughts.
God bless and big hugs,