Thursday, August 3, 2023

Virtuous Wife free BOM block 11...


“She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers linen sashes to the merchants.”

We’ve discussed in a previous study of the Proverbs 31 woman the industriousness of this lady, so I shan’t go over that again. What I would like for us to ponder with verse 24 is the variety of ways she manages the family income, from two sources – her husband’s (which I assume was the main income) and her own.

Over the many decades of my homemaking life there have been long seasons when I needed to supplement the family income whilst still being home to care for the children, teach them (we homeschooled) and tend to our household. Some of the ways I did this was through caring for small children in our home through Family Day Care, buying and selling vintage books I found by scouring op-shops and garage sales, and eventually at the age of fifty becoming an embroidery designer – something I am still doing today.

I have never seen myself in the role of breadwinner, and God-willing I will never need to be, but with no extended family in either mine or my husband’s life we’ve always had to lean on the Lord for help in tough times, and some of those times He would open a door for me to help out financially. This is how I think about verse 24 – she did what was needed at the time.

Managing the family budget wisely for us didn’t always mean earning more income. Most of the time it meant doing without, shopping for clothes at op-shops (charity stores), planning a very strict grocery budget and menu plan – then sticking to it. It meant choosing fun activities that were free - botanical garden picnics, swimming at the beach, hiking in the rainforest or the mountains, meeting up with other homeschool families for a BBQ, playing plenty of board games with the kids each evening, having the whole family sit around the table to do a large jigsaw we’d bought at the op-shop for a dollar, growing a garden out the back, recycled craft many things.

A wise woman finds ways to manage her home, and that may mean “she makes linen garments and sells them”, but it may also mean she is thrifty, sensible and wise to manage her husband’s income so that the bills are paid, the family dress presentably, and dinner is on the table to fill hungry bellies. It means she doesn’t pursue shopping as though it was her hobby, she isn’t filling the shelves with useless or wasteful items, and she is caring well for her home so that everything stays in good working order for as long as possible.

Industriousness within the home is so very important, and personally, I see it as a great privilege and blessing that I have a home to care for when many in the world do not.

I shall ponder this month just how I can improve my skills as a diligent and wise homemaker…will you?

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Donna P. said...

I know many of us have this love/not-so-much relationship with the Proverbs 31 woman. I did in the past until my pastor told me that she doesn't do this all at once - that she's not superwoman. This happened over time in many cases. So, I have learned to do the best I can and let Jesus "take the wheel" so to speak.
How is Charlie and the rest of the family doing? Praying they are recovering from it.

Carol said...

Thank you Jennifer for the words of wisdom and the free pattern.
I also feel truly blessed to have a home to feel comfortable in and my family to love.

Carol O said...

Thank you and hope Charlie is MUCH BETTER!

Jenny of Elefantz said...

Hi Donna :-)
In response to your comment...
Exactly. I wrote all that in the beginning of this study. She wasn’t an actual woman, this was King Lemuel’s mother advising him on the character traits for him to look for in a wife. When we read it through that lens it all make more sense, and isn’t meant to burden a heart.
Charlie is all better now and we are so relieved. ๐Ÿ˜Š Thank you so very much for your prayers. xx

Miriam said...

Nice to read that little Charle is better. Let’s pray for all the children with health problems.
I am a housewife, mother of two grown up children. I try to do my best for my family and my home and I thank God everyday for everything He gives us.
Have a nice week end,
Miriam from Italy

P.S.: hopefully I wrote well what I mean :-)

Mary-Louise Parker said...

Hi Jennifer we had very similar experience so I can totally relate. You are so good and encouraging!. Glad to hear Charlie is so much better Praise God! Xx

Susan said...

Thank you so much for both the pattern and the discourse about it. I am a very literal thinker, and I would miss so much if you didn't discuss how you see things. I look for Bible study podcasts and YouTubes that help me extend my understanding, things under the surface I might miss without help. You are a big help! Thank you so much for helping me see this woman in new lights this last year.

Allie said...

Gorgeous block! And oh, your reply to Donna made me go back and read the first part of proverbs 31 - I had always had that separated in my mind, I don't know why, but now it makes sense. Thank you for that! And oh, verse six made me think of mom, giving her morphine every hour at the end, that made me cry again. I had so wondered if I was doing the right thing....I needed that today, and didn't even know it, but God did. Bless you darlin'. Love, Allie